Although we have practicing DD for almost 3 years, but we still struggling on the first stage of it. Many things jumped in and we couldn't do it continuously. So, it seemed like we just started over again every several months. It's so frustrating and tiring.
Another reason that we couldn't improve in DD maybe our personality. My husband is not really a dominant person. Well, sometimes he does, but not all the time. He's like an easy-going person. He doesn't mind much things, especially things he feels not a big problem. A lot of my behavior I could consider as annoying and punishable for him are just normal things, or easy to let go. But that personality of him did help us much on avoiding argues.
Moreover, even when my husband is annoyed, or pissed, or angry, he doesn't usually express himself, just keeps all inside and keeps silent. That's the thing I hate the most about him. I want him to talk out what he is thinking, I want him to scold me when I do something wrong, I want him to punish me if I make him pissed. But.... *sigh* it seems not natural for him to do that. And it's so frustrating when you want to communicate but your husband just keep the cold.
And about me, although I really want to be submissive, my inner-soul (don't know which word to use) craving to be submissive, but originally, I'm more like the dominant type lol ... I'm used to tell people what and how to do, used to express all my thought, used to have things in my control. That seems so confusing. How can I both a dominant type and want to be submissive at the same time? It makes things really hard for me to try to be submissive. Actually, I only want to be submissive to my husband, follow his rules (if he would make them =.= ), be under his control, be taken in hand... So can I keep control to everything else, like at work, and also be submissive to only my husband ?
I've read many blogs about DD, and I think trying to be submissive to him, no fight, no argue, trying to give up control to him... might help my husband to be more dominant, more used to taking control. Is that right?
But easier said than done... still struggling so much...